Challenge the person for an answer: Dare the person to speak up. Dare the person to answer

There are some situation whereby there are just some annoying people who snigger, make rude remarks in the background when one is speaking in the group. It doesn't help if one speaks up or ask questions and put into the spotlight because one wants to know more or there are matters that should be pointed out to the speaker. The annoying people are usually cowards who linger in the background because they are afraid to ask questions in public and faced others or they are simply annoying because it is in their nature to be annoying. In this situation, challenge them to answer or debate you in public right in front of the group.


When you put them into the spotlight, they will freak themselves to death and would pose less troublesome to you later. Simply ask them rational questions that they should answer. If they snigger some stupid answer in the background to the question you have just asked the speaker. Holding the microphone and pointing to the snigerer in public and ask him "The question is directed to the speaker? Are you the speaker?" He is obviously not the speaker and would tame down.


There are other options available such as "What is so funny about the question?" Ask the person to identify himself and he may freak out because the fact he is sniggering in the background is because he is a coward in the first place. These cowards would be so scared and so surprise that people are not afraid of them. They snigger because they think they can be annoying and get away in the dark. Or, suggest that they become the speaker if they are so good and know everything.

Which one is better? The bad or the worse?

If you have an option (or idea) that you want accepted. Make that a good case. Now that is easier said than done. No one buys an idea that sounds too rosy or too good to be true. So, balance it up mention about the bad side too and make it a bad case. But, wait. Make out another scenario and make this other case so bad that it is a worse case scenario. Between the bad and the worse case, guess what will people choose? That's right the bad case, because the bad case is better than the worse.

My top 20 picks on Communication Books

My top 20 picks for best communication books. You can buy these books online. My number one pick is an ebook. The rest are physical books that you can find in the bookshops or buy online at Amazon. I will be listing my top picks here, and later individually talk about the reasons why I choose these books in other blog posts.

My top twenty picks: (Click on the links to buy online at Amazon. Amazon offers the best deals and discounts.)


(1) How to Talk Your Way to the Top @ Work, in Business and in Life (Click Here)

(2) How to Develop Self-Confidence And Influence People By Public Speaking (Click Here)

(3) How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk (Click Here)

(4) The Dilbert Principle: A Cubicle's-Eye View of Bosses, Meetings, Management Fads & Other Workplace Afflictions [Paperback] (Click Here)

(5) How to Become a Rainmaker: The Rules for Getting and Keeping Customers and Clients (Click Here)

(6) Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus: A Practical Guide for Improving Communication and Getting What You Want in Your Relationships (Click Here)

(7) Jack: Straight from the Gut [Paperback] (Click Here)

(8) Personality Plus: How to Understand Others by Understanding Yourself [Bargain Price] [Paperback] (Click Here)

 

 

More to come....

Are you a "wow wow" person....?

At work, people may not accept a colorful person. If you can stick out like a sore thumb and carry yourself well to ward of the negative responses, then it is okay. But as a general rule of thumb, it doesn't go down well to being too colorful.

Get a partner...i mean support

You want to get support for what you say or your ideas in front of your colleagues/co-workers or friends. Bring along a partner, a friend, a sidekick. When you have support, people are hesitant to talk you down because you appear strong and not alone.

Giving advise, sharing or discussing....

What is the best way to learn something...or enhance your understanding on a subject. It is to share the knowledge. Advise. Share. Discuss. Advising others is therapeutic. Advising others - what goes round comes back. You will remember the most of the good advice you shared. If it is good, chances are you will adopt it for your own good use. But, beware, so as not to be seen as show-off. There are some stupid people (because they don't like to hear others give advice, they may think they are smart, or just think negatively of others' kind intention) be subtle, so that you're not seen as a smart aleck or over-bearing. 

Giving advise sharing sometimes do bring good ideas to you. Something you never thought about. The ideas might come when you are talking about it. So, if you're stuck and looking to solve a problem, talk about it and see the ideas coming to you... Another advantage, people listening to you can give you feedback and that will lead you to think of different angles you never thought off. So, good luck in looking for ideas and building up your own soul.


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Not too colorful...

Being subtly colorful in conversations is okay in the office. But being too colorful in character in the office will draw unnecessary or unwanted attention to you. It really depends on the job environment you are into. If you're a marketing person, then yes you would be expected to have a slightly more colorful personality. But, if you're a lawyer or accountant where boringness rules the day, being too colorful might make you stand out like a sore thumb.

Silence...can be powerful. Logic wins also...

People like to talk and argue and win and make a lot of noise. Silence or momentary silence between sentences can sometimes be more powerful than a lot of noises. Arguing with powerful logic is very important at the corporate office. 

People make decisions based on the presentation of logical and how people can argue themselves out of the way into or out of a decision. Most people cannot see every angle. So, by bringing up other angles bring some freshness into the conversation and consideration. Talk like a lawyer. Talk to win.

Seeking sympathy..playing "poor thing"....

People in general want to help others in need. Or, People are inherently kind and want to help those worse off than themselves. Whether this will make them feel better (that they are better off) or simply they have a reason to release their pent-up inner need to shine out. Whatever it is, people are sympathetic towards others who are humble to admit they have a weakness (or play weaker and "poor thing") .

People's immediate reaction is to protect the poor or weak. If you can use that to your advantage, you will win some arguments.

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Make a grunt as if to say, "If you don't get it now, you'll be a loser." Then say, "You mean you don't know about the big benefits? Everyone knows already"

When people question why you do things when you are just doing the normal run of the mill things, like they are nosy or super-imposing and you are annoyed, then tell them what they are missing if they don't do the same as you are doing. It will worry them and make them run for the money (with their mouth) for their unwanted curiosity, because they now have to quickly sprint to find out (or beat themselves) for what they have been missing for doing nothing.

Yes, sometimes a grunt and a horrified facial expression speaks more than a thousand words. 

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